Everyone has heard of the myth of the vaginal orgasm. Does it exist at all? Let’s talk about what a vaginal orgasm is and how to get one (or give one).
Some people find it easier to get an orgasm through vaginal stimulation, which is sometimes called a “vaginal orgasm,” than others. If you want to figure out how this happens or just want to see it more often, we have some tips that will help you. But first, let’s talk a bit about how female orgasm works scientifically.
In the past, there has been a big gap in what scientists knew about female orgasms. As researchers started to talk about female orgasms, they put them into two groups: vaginal and clitoral. This was based on whether the orgasm was caused by stimulation of the vagina or the clitoris. As our knowledge of how women’s bodies work grew, these terms became a bit out of date.
Today, we know from more in-depth studies that different parts of the body have different effects on the brain. Many people say that when their vagina or clitoris is touched, they feel different things.
As scientists learn more about what happens when the clitoral or vaginal area is stimulated, they tend to agree that separating female orgasms into different types isn’t very helpful. A recent study in The Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy found that about 37% of American women need clitoral stimulation in order to get an orgasm. In the same study, it was found that less than one in five women got sexually aroused just by stimulating their vaginal area.
To get an orgasm through vaginal stimulation, you may need to mix up your sex life in a few ways, like using lubricants, trying new positions, and making sure you’re as sexually aroused as possible. Here are some ideas you may want to look into.
Try more foreplay
Many people don’t realise how important pre-play is. For women, foreplay is especially important because it takes longer for their bodies to get to the level of arousal needed for an orgasm.
Foreplay is good for both your body and your mind. It gets the body and mind ready for sex. Different people have different ideas about what they want to do during foreplay, but getting sexually aroused helps the vagina make lubrication. Lubrication is important for sex and orgasms to be comfortable, so it’s a good idea to spend some time on foreplay.
Foreplay depends on what you and your partner like, but sex educators recommend giving shoulder massages, kissing, and touching each other before sex.
During vaginal sex, stimulate the clitoral area.
The clitoris is right above the vagina, on the pubic bone. It is often partially covered by a small “hood” of skin. It is the part of a woman’s body that responds most strongly to sexual stimulation. Stimulating the clitoris can make you feel good, especially as you’re getting ready to have an orgasm.
Direct clitoral stimulation is often needed to increase the chance of having an orgasm. This can be done with a toy, with your fingers, or with the tongue of your partner. Sex educators say to try different amounts of pressure and touch to see what works for you.
Because you know your body better than anyone else, you can tell your partner exactly how to help you get an orgasm.
Have an orgasm before sex
Some people say that they can get an orgasm by stimulating their vaginal area if they have already had one. For them, having an orgasm before sex gets them ready for another orgasm and makes the feelings they feel even stronger.
In other words, if you’ve already had an orgasm, you may have a better chance of getting at least one more.
Figure out the best way to get an orgasm.
People sometimes call exploring orgasm with vaginal penetration a “vaginal orgasm.” The best position for this is one that gives you the right amount and type of stimulation of the clitoris or the G-spot, which is a very sensitive part of the vagina that isn’t fully understood yet. Even though different positions feel different to different people, the following are some possibilities
When you orgasm “doggy style,” the penis presses on the G-spot to help you.
Some people think “woman on top” works better. Due to the angle of the penis, this position is best for stimulating the G-spot. Also, you have full control over the speed, depth, and angle of sex.
In the “sitting” position, you sit on your partner’s lap to get deeper penetration and more stimulation in your clitoral area. As an added bonus, this position can also make for a lot of closeness.
Talk to your Partner
Yes, you can get a good penetration angle from different places. Your body can lubricate better if you play before bed. But what about talking to your partner honestly?
Transparency and trust can grow when you talk to your partner in an honest way. When you’re open in the bedroom and talk about your likes, dislikes, fantasies, and desires, your chances of getting an orgasm go up.
Try talking to each other to find out what you both like and to avoid guessing. You might want to try out different options until you and your partner find the best one.
Find the right pace for you.
Some couples may think they have to act like what they see in porn. But this kind of sex might make you ejaculate too quickly.
Even though there’s no one “right” way to have sex, most people like a mix of fast and slow tempos. You might like going from slow to fast quickly, then slowing down for a minute and speeding up again.
In general, the key is to try out a lot of different methods and styles to find out what works best for you.
Use lube if you want things to move more easily. Lubricants add moisture, which can reduce friction and make sex more comfortable.
Some people always have enough grease in their bodies. But it’s normal to need a little lube if your hormones change because of your period, menopause, stress, or pregnancy.
You can learn more about “vaginal orgasm” by adding this one thing to your sexual life. No matter what kind of lube you choose, put it on your fingertips and then on the area or sex toy you want to use. If you use condoms, don’t use anything that has oil in it. And if you use a toy, make sure the lube works with it.
Prepare your mind
For great sex, you might need lube, clitoral stimulation, and clear talking. The only thing left is to have a calm mind.
To get orgasm through vaginal stimulation, or vaginal orgasm, let yourself relax and enjoy the experience. Let your mind and body enjoy sex to the fullest. Leave your thoughts behind, except for sexual fantasies, and pay attention to how your body feels.
It’s also important to get enough rest, work out regularly, and eat a healthy, balanced diet. These building blocks can also make your health and mood better as a whole.
Most importantly, learn to love your body. Taking small, positive steps towards self-acceptance can make a big difference in how sexually satisfied you feel and how often you have orgasms.
What does it mean if you don’t have a vaginal orgasm?
Even if you’ve tried all of these tips and tricks and still aren’t getting orgasms from vaginal stimulation, that’s fine. Most of the time, a woman needs direct stimulation of the clitoral area to have an orgasm. But since the clitoris is outside of the vagina, it doesn’t get stimulated very often during penetrative sex.
Orgasm is orgasm no matter how it happens: through penetration, clitoral stimulation, a combination of the two, or even while sleeping or from exercise. Scientists still disagree about whether orgasms in women should be put into different categories. Penetrative sex might not directly stimulate the clitoral area enough to make you orgasm with just vaginal stimulation. Sexual arousal and orgasms in general are caused by a mix of things, since what works best for each person’s body is different.