One awkward conversation you may be hesitating to bring up in your relationship is how to talk about sex with your partner. Sex talk is not everyone’s cup of tea nor is sexting God’s gift to all. Most of us are not in the prime of our comfort zone to initiate sex talk with our love interests or spouses.
But, after the initial hurdles, you can see that side of yours that you have never ever seen in your life. The question that is always on your mind is how to have a sex talk with your partner? We will agree it is not easy to start an intimate conversation. You need to have a certain level of comfort to do that.
Sometimes some people might be comfortable in bed with you but when it comes to the sex talk they recoil like a turtle inside a shell. You might have tried to initiate sex talk with your partner but when they did not respond favorably or exhibited discomfort, you just couldn’t go any further. But you can initiate this conversation without fear of rejection and we will tell you how to do that.
1. The right time for a sex talk
The right time never comes, you need to create it. You have tell yourself that you need to learn how to sex talk. Just see an opportunity and talk about it. But ensure you are in a relaxed frame of mind when you are having the sex talk.
If he is stressed about work and you try to initiate an intimate conversation then this is not the right time. When you are relaxing over some wine or watching a movie on the couch it could be a good idea to initiate it. You could start positive and talk about what you likes about your last sex sesh.
2. Gain some knowledge
Read, read and then read some more about sex and its benefits. Learn what all you can do to seduce your partner and when to stop. This will impress them. If you are thinking of seducing your husband, then picking up a few tricks and tips is a good idea too.
A great way to initiate a sex chat is buying a book on sex and reading it together. Then when you go through it together you can talk about what you are ready to experiment with and what does not work for you. You can try the sex workshop videos on YouTube as well. It’s a great way to laugh and learn together.
3. Practice what you will say
If you are going to ask them about it, then frame lines and practice them. Make sure that you do not sound creepy, desperate and vulgar. Be straightforward and simple, one example for such a line is, “Hey! How comfortable are you to talk about sex?”
Initiating healthy sex talk can make sure than your experience does not border on inappropriateness. Practice the art of consent before making advances.